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Domestic abuse

Worried you're hurting someone

It takes strength to be able to take responsibility for your actions. If you think you might be treating a partner, ex-partner or family member in a way that's hurting them you can get support to help you stop this cycle of abuse.

Domestic abuse can take many forms, not just deliberate acts of violence. It could be verbal, emotional sexual and physical abuse. It can be hard to recognise how these behaviours impact the person who experiences it and what lasting effects this can have on a person.

Some signs that you could be hurting someone to look out for could include (but are not limited to):

  • Telling your partner you don't want them to go out with their friends
  • Trying to control what they wear
  • Forcing your partner to be intimate, even when they have said no.
  • Does your partner seem scared of you?


Respect is an anonymous and confidential helpline for men and women who are harming their partners and families.

You can call them on 0808 802 4040 or use their webchat service during the week.


GOV.UK also have lots of advice if you're worried about your behaviour, including finding ways to change.